The Motherhood of Cats

Over the last few days, as I’ve read and heard “Happy Mother’s Day” sentiments, I think about how I missed that boat. I didn’t even think about wanting kids until I was in my late thirties. At that time, I had a boyfriend who didn’t want kids. Preferring a relationship to procreation, I accepted his no kids policy and never felt like I was missing out. Since the age of twenty-six, I’d been the caretaker or “mother” of cats, which must have satisfied the desire to mother children of the human kind.

Punkie at about nine months

 

Baby Frankie

But, when I was about forty-five, I felt a stronger yearning to have children—talk about being a late bloomer. I even entertained adopting…for about five minutes. That yearning dissipated quickly when I came to the conclusion that I had just enough energy to take care of three cats and myself.

Punkie

Topper and Lex always into mischief together.

I’ve been the mother of two or three cats for the past thirty years. Mothering cats (or dogs, goats, horses…whatever your furbaby) is much like mothering human kids. Not that I know from first-hand experience, but I do know that the same qualities in mothering human children apply to our animal children. We are here to protect, love and nurture these precious sentient beings. I’m a fierce protector of my kitties; I love them deeply, and apply discipline when needed (Boys—MY chair…for just five minutes…pawleeez).

I’ve mothered cats from kittenhood; nurtured their growth into old age and into their moment of passing—a responsibility and duty I take seriously.

Three cat night… From the top: Topper, Lexington and Bobcat.

 

Lexington and Cat Lady

Over the years, many people have expressed amazement when meeting my cats at their friendly and peaceful dispositions. All six cats have (or had) very different personalities and backgrounds. It’s how they’ve been raised, I say.

Miss Bella

Topper

Bobcat

Happy Mother’s Day to All!

Dressed to the Nines and Cool Cat Tattoos

I have some serious cat lady competition. Not that I’m a competitive cat lady. However, if I was, I would be feeling a little insecure about my cat lady credentials right about now after being amongst the cat people I encountered at the L.A. Feline Film Festival on Sunday. I suppose the fact that I attended confirms I’m a cat lady; so there, I feel better already. But seriously, I truly embrace anyone who is passionate about cats and give special kudos to those who dress the part in public.

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I’ve never seen such a cool display of cat couture from cat ears and tails and painted on whiskers; cat tights, cat printed dresses, cat t-shirts, cat caps and cat tattoos; sexy cat ladies, country cat ladies with aprons and bonnets; and men with cat ears and painted on noses. Continue reading

In the beginning…

Being a cat lady was initially, not my calling.  Or so I thought.  They say that our passions and pastimes as children are indicative of what we will become as adults, of what our vocation or life’s work will or should be.  In looking back, I believe that I was a cat lady in training way before I understood the difference between a Persian and a Maine Coon.  I have vivid memories of my first pet at the age of 2–a fluffy orange kitten named Tabby.

img004_edited-1I also have vivid memories of drawing for hours, writing stories, and singing into my hairbrush to the tunes of Donny Osmond and the Jackson 5.  I ended-up becoming a paralegal to pay the bills, but have evolved into a writer.  I took my childhood sketching a step further and became an artist for fun, although I have sold a few paintings on commission, and I’ve dabbled in singing.
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But what has been consistent throughout  my life is my affinity for felines.  Little did I know that Tabby would be the first of a family of cat companions that would enchant, captivate and provide love and life lessons beyond what I ever imagined.  Although adopting cats rescued from either a lethal injection, abandonment or an abusive home isn’t a vocation of the career kind, it falls under the first definition of “calling” according to Webster, “a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action, esp. when accompanied by conviction of divine influence.”

Tete-a-Tete

I can’t say for certain if I was influenced by angels; it’s more like I just couldn’t help myself.  But I can say for certain that my cat lady calling, while isn’t a paid vocation, has been and continues to be rewarding, inspiring, enlightening and entertaining.

Stay in touch for more cat lady tales to come!  By the way, Webster’s third meaning of calling:  “the characteristic cry of a female cat in heat.”  Meeeoooow!Christmas 2009 021